Life Mirrors Art but only sometimes

So actual readers of this blog – rather than those who come here on image searches – might have been wondering what is up with us, and the answer is basically, nothing.

We have moved to foreign climes again, and almost gotten through the period of chaos that happens when you move, but there’s so much going on that it’s hard to focus on D/s / chastity aspects of our relationship like we sometimes have when there’s been less happening. I sometimes wonder if we will end up properly exploring this when we are both retired. Plus, internet here is almost more expensive than gold, so I haven’t had much blog time.

So, uh, nothing to report, although I have determined to get myself back into the device in a few weeks time, just for my own interest, without Michelle necessarily having too much to do with it.

I might pop back in with the odd art post every now and again to keep this moving. It’s funny, my site stats keep going slowly upward, almost regardless of how much I actually post. People are still stumbling onto the old stuff I guess.

Steve.

 

Getting a Buzz

Out of the device at present, having fun, preparing for the move. Have been told I will prolly go back in in August.

In the meantime: I like this picture. Don’t know who it is, only that it is Japanese, but she looks like she is in a happy place. I love it when my wife goes into that place when she is teasing me.

By the way, this site is gonna be ticking along with images for a while. Proper blogging when we settle in, I hope.

Steve.

Linkage Renewal

Blog link renewal time.

• Femdom-Resources is up and looks the goods.
• Man I sure I am getting a lot of hits from Keyheld. Appreciated.Added a banner.
• Chastity Forums is still going all right. I added a banner.

• The Pickle Queen is down. I always liked it. It was one of those sites that got set up before the blogosphere really kicked in and maybe got a bit left behind? But it was a good ‘un.
• Rodzo dot com is down. His work is still up at the Strict Susan website (see the links). Mistress Susan contacted me a while back to say it had been along time since she had heard from him.
• Painter Jayne’s site is still up but most of the images are missing.
• The Femdom Wiki project has folded. My post here was in vain. Images from that site that were hotlinked have gone.
• The Wayback Machine is still up and Femdomart.ru is still there but they must have changed their hosting policy because they now block image linking. I’m fixing a few old posts.
• A Slave’s True Nature is still up but no sign of Nik. I don’t know why but that particular blogger really appealed to me.

Update: The Dominant’s View is also down! My art archive post is trashed. Bummer. That was a good site.

I suppose there are prolly lots of cool femdom tumblrs out there now too. I’m resisting the temptation to do my own.

Oh, and I really love this picture.

Phases

Things are still very fluid around here.

The sense of frustration and ennui that plagued my last post is gone (for the time being) and we are actually going through am awesome bit. Good companionship. Real intimacy. And killer sex, like some of our best ever. And I don’t know why.

There’s no ‘dynamic’ and no chastity play to speak of. Not because we’ve been too busy but because it doesn’t seem like what is right at the moment.

I still sometimes feel an urge to go into chastity and into a more submissive mode, but then I also feel other contradictory urges about being more dominant with Michelle, especially in bed, and if the mood is right she doesn’t seem to mind this at all.

Oddly, we haven’t been communicating very much about any of this. It’s just happening. I know that people tend to say ‘communication is everything’ in relationships, but I think there is also such a thing as too much communication, especially when it leads to over-thinking, and sometimes it is better to sit back and let things be.

I know Michelle feels this way, and more and more I am also feeling like that as well. Maybe there are times when we have said everything that can be said.

Part of the point of blogging is so I can look back and go: “aha! I have been here before” and realise that this is one phase, and that a chastity play phase is very likely to return at some point in the future, and it will be great, but then so will another phase where we aren’t getting it right, and that phase will suck.

I wish I knew how to work out how to nip the bad phases in the bud and let the good phases come into full bloom. But right now I don’t really know, and maybe that’s the point. It just happens when the time is right.

The Glow Inside is Back…tentatively

Hi folks,

Probably most regular readers have stopped coming by now but I’m still getting 300+ hits a day on old posts, so hopefully someone out there is still reading this…

Michelle and I have been same as always – working on our relationship, and experimenting with D/s dynamics, especially in bed, but otherwise, keeping things pretty “normal”. I do my thing, and she does hers. It works pretty well, mostly.

The big change is that I have decided to start wearing a device. I currently have on a chrome-plated padlocked ring, attached to a cock cage.

This change was brought about by me. I ordered the device and tested it yesterday, and we put it on together, last night.

I have previously written that I would not go for a device unless she wanted it, and she had always said that it wasn’t really her thing, so I never did it.

Then just lately I decided that I wanted to do it for my own purposes, and asked her if she would do me a favor and be my key-holder. She said yes, she would be prepared to do that.

I have decided I want a device because we both like it when I am chaste, but if I am not locked up, the temptation to masturbate (not to orgasm) becomes too great and I end up doing it too often.

Also, I just like the idea. I think Michelle also likes it now she has thought about it, but doesn’t want it to be a burden or an obligation. So at the moment it’s my thing.

We had awesome sex last night with me locked up, and she said she had a great time. But then later in the evening, I realized that it was actually possible to get the device off. I had ordered the largest sized ring because I was worried about constricting things too much, and that was a mistake; I found that I could slip my balls back through the ring pretty easily, and then the whole thing just came right off.

I got up in the morning and asked Michelle if I could have a key so I could unlock it to get it back on.

“Yes. But you have to give it straight back to me.”

So I unlocked it and gave her back the key straight away, and she hid it.

Then I wrapped gardening twine around the base of the ring, to form a pad about half an inch high that effectively narrows the area that my balls could fit through.

Then I put it back on, and locked it up.

I have just experimented to see if I can get it off with the twine there, and the answer is: yes, I could still get it off, but it would be very hard work, and probably quite painful.

So I think I am effectively locked up now.

Obviously the twine is only a temporary solution, as it will be a bit gross when it gets wet. I may use wire or fishing line, and eventually, get a smaller ring.

Newbie observations so far:

– Walking around with several hundred dollars worth of chrome plated steel on my todger is weird, but also strangely comfortable
– If anyone kicks me in the nuts, I’m pretty much dead
– In order to stop my balls getting squashed between the ring and the cage, I sometimes have to walk and move tentatively, as though I was nursing a minor injury. I’m going to have to get used to it and toughen up, otherwise it will attract attention.
– The bulge is more noticeable than I would like when I wear tight jeans. Michele loves me in tight jeans. Catch 22 right there.
– I’m going to have to take it off for my karate lessons. Gym could be interesting, too.
– I don’t clink nearly as much as I expected.
– I knew I would have to pee sitting down but didn’t realize the end of the cage would bump against the toilet bowl
– Getting an erection in a cage is hot
– What am I going to do when my nephew sits on my knee?

Anyway…

Back with more in a bit. BTW, I have no regular commitment to this any more. It’s just a place to ramble and put up art I like…

Steve.

The Glow Inside

Our sex life – and consequently my blogging – is taking on a new direction.

I have told Michelle that I want to have some control over her sexuality in the same way that she has over mine;  I’d like us both to be responsible for when the other person comes. Not as a set thing, just something I’d like to experiment with when it seems right.

I’m not sure if there are other couples around where both people are ‘keyholders’ or where both have that sort of control at the same time, but that is sort of the direction we could be going in. Except that Michelle isn’t sure if she wants to give me that much control right away…she says she doesn’t mind experimenting with it, though.

Not sure where this leaves me in relation to kink but one thing I do know – when we have sex now, and there’s anything kinky going on, I think we both recognize that it is just kinky sex and doesn’t really mean anything in terms of the power situation in our relationship. Over the last year I have found it is possible to have perfectly fun sex with Michelle roughing me up or tying me up or whatever, and have a totally normal vibe at other times.

When we first started getting into kink I thought it would be necessary to have some kind of understanding that there was a D/s relationship all the time; so that the sex would work, and the whole thing would just be sexier. I thought that my brain would not accept role-play, or forays into D/s territory. I thought that I would be worried all the time about whether the whole thing was real.

After having tried it out, I have come to realise that my brain will accept role play just fine. If I’m getting tied up and tormented, I’m happy. In fact, I am more able to give myself over to the experience of submission, and less worried about whether the whole thing is real. It’s real while it is happening and that is enough.

This is liberating, really….