Fucking as Service

I know there’s some debate about whether coital sex – better known as fucking – is really appropriate in a femdom relationship, as it suggests  (to some people) that the male is wielding dominant power through his mighty purple love torpedo et. al. and the woman becomes submissive to him through this experience.

I have to say, Michelle is firmly in the “if I want a good long fuck then I’m bloody well having one” camp, although she does admit to having some pleasantly mushy and submissive feelings towards me while we’re doing it. But don’t worry, these are entirely temporary.

As for me, the whole debate seems upside down. What could be more submissive than doing this act on request? Think about it this way: she’s lying there on her back, relaxed and happy, without a single cogent thought in her head; I’m above her, propped up on my arms, stomach muscles clenched tight, concentrating intently on keeping just the right rhythm going until she’s had her fill, which can quite a long time if we haven’t done it for a while.

Nothing in my sex life is more submissive than this. It’s service. It’s difficult. Eating her pussy, which is supposedly so symbolic of my submission to her,  is a picnic in comparison. It’s much easier, it’s delicious, and if I’m in the right position, it’s very comfortable.

When I fuck Michelle, in many ways I do it entirely for her benefit; and although it does give me great satisfaction, it isn’t for the amazing sensations that course through my body, or even in my dick. It’s for the endorphin rush, and, I suppose, the trip of being able to take her to such a dreamy, far away, place. So there is a sense of power in it, but I feel it as the power of giving her pleasure, not of controlling her.

In short, I realy don’t get the “femdom = no fucking” thing, no, I do not get it at all. In our world, fucking is one of the ultimate acts of male service.

The Wily Old Crocodile: An Interview with Eosuchus

Eosuchus has been about on the D/s internet scene for a long time, posting here, writing there, and slowly building up a profile as a fine eroticist. Recently (last year) he started up his own weblog, with samples of his femdom fiction and also some more theoretical writings on femdom in society.

I asked him six questions on e-mail a few days ago and he responded at length, making for a pretty good interview IMHO. I’ve saved my own responses until right at the end, where there is also a bunch of links to his stories on various websites.

Steve: Eosuchus. What’s with that name? A Permian-era crocodile?

Eosuchus: The crocodile family are old — and in their way, wise. 😉

Steve: Your stories are all over the net now, at the Femdom Desire forums, some on the site of a Ms Christine, some on www.shemaleas.com, and elsewhere. Do you have plans to unify it all on your blog or anywhere else?

Eosuchus: Not really. There are stories from various stages in the development of this work. I have examples of most of them, and maybe someday I might put them up on the weblog. I have a lot of stories to tell, and I’ve got a few hobbyhorses that I circle around, but I have also tried to break new ground. What I dream of is finding an artist, or even a Poser person, who would like to collaborate on some FD storytelling. Maybe even put up a pay site for such work. I think the form is best approached through fiction combined with some sexy graphics. I like the approach taken by Regime Imperia. If I were doing something like that I would try for a more “domestic” approach.

Steve: You are quite well known – obviously you’re not a big glory seeker, but have you thought about publishing your stories as a collection anywhere?

Eosuchus: I have, and my little weblog is a possible first step in that direction. I have a hard drive’s worth of other materials, including a piece of FD Science Fiction that is essentially a novel.

Steve: By the way, where is the full text of *Walter*? I see it referenced here and there but can’t find it. Is it still online anywhere?

Eosuchus: That story is a few hard drives ago. It should be on Ms Christine’s DOMestic site, if she’s still got the same story archive they had years back. I haven’t checked there in several years. When they first started up DOMestic I found it an exciting way to post stories as I began to develop my own style. But I haven’t posted on DOMestic in years and years now.

Steve: Permian systems is your own brand, I take it? Have you had copyright issues with any of your stuff? I know that people who put long fiction online tend to find this a problem.

Eosuchus: Oh, I really don’t know. I haven’t noticed any of my stories being put out under another name. What’s on the internet is pretty much free, so it wouldn’t be the greatest loss. I guess I can’t quite imagine someone else putting their own name on an eosuchus story. But yes, Permian Systems is my brand and copyright signifier.

Steve: What are you working on at the moment? Your more recent blog writings seem almost like a cultural analysis of femdom practices rather than fiction, and I have to say personally I don’t like them as much as your fantasies because I don’t see ‘real’ femdom as having rules or systems, just people. How do you respond to that?

Eosuchus: Real FemDom and male fantasy FemDom — different, but rooted in the same urges. Real FemDom is for real life (or paid sessions with a Dominatrix?) and if there are rules, then they are likely to be Her rules. They will vary from woman to woman, I would think. Male fantasies circle around the same ideas, the same acts of erotic power, over and over. But then– Female erotic fantasies do much the same sort of thing– at least if one goes by romance fiction.

My musings about FemDom tropes and art are just one writer’s take on things. But, you would have to admit, surely, that FemDom fantasies do seem a little, well, limited in range. Check Namio Harukawa’s obsessions, for example.  Some are much less likely to ever actually take place than others, but they retain an erotic appeal to submissive men. Wny is this? I can’t imagine– at least in 2009– that ladies clad in leather are going to take men out for walks, as if they were dogs, but that notion comes up again and again. I find that interesting.

I have put some stories up on the weblog, and I will put up more. I thought, though, that it would be fun to put up some ideas, select some of my favorite FD images and artists and discuss them. FemDom art is actually fascinating in a number of ways. Some stuff doesn’t work, even if it’s well executed. It just lacks the necessary erotic spark. Other works are mental dynamite, at least for submissive, masochistic men. This intrigues me.

As for what I’m writing now. I continue to try and perfect some favorite short scenes. I have a story about Pony Play– something that is very new for me. I have a group of stories– that I would really love to see illustrated– describing a relationship that moves from a kinky love affair to an all out FemDom marriage. I have also been working a bit on updating another story set that I first developed for Ms. Christine’s DOMestic list about a decade ago, titled  “Beneath Her Hem” which lays out an imagined, “perfect” FemDom married life. And I have this relatively huge, SF FemDom novel, that I don’t know what to do with!

(End interview).

So, looks like we have a lot to look forward to from Eosuchus – and I wish him good luck with publication. It also looks like another FD writer looking for an illustrator, somebody wanting to do high-quality FD illustrated narrative with a domestic tone. Funny, that’s exactly what I want to do as well. Good to now I’m not the only person interested in this! Maybe someday we can get past  comic-style representations of men in dungeons and get something far more sensual and realistic happening.

(Not sure why he’s rfeerenced Regime Imperia, though.  I see what he means in regards to their presentation of ongoing illustrated narrative, but personally I think their stuff is really tacky).

Want to read some Eosuchus? Here’s some links to get you started…

• Eosuchus Weblog
• Enjoying Stephen
• Sex Slave
• ‘A review of Walter’ at Mark Remond’s site
• On Mistress Adaires site (join to read)
• Free for A Day (On Ms Christine’s site – join to read).
• Free for a Day on The Domme’s View (includes brief bio)
• On My DommeSpace (join and search to read)

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Rodzo and Strict Susan: A Good Match?

There’s many places to get hold of works by well known Femdom artist Rodzo. He used to have a webby but it’s down now. Some folks say he is dead…

While he was active he had a relationship of some kind with an internet domme Strict Susan, who displays a number of his artworks full size, together with much longer text on the same theme.

I have to say I’m unsure about this creative relationship. Like I said, the caption here is pretty much all the illustration needs.

She’s got nice legs, she’s in charge, and she wants to keep him where he is. We get it. But Ms Susan’s full text runs over a thousand words to draw this out. Here is about a tenth of the text she provides.

Now that hope had faded and here he was again, lying flat on the top of her desk in only his underwear with the strong leather straps binding his ankles together and holding his wrists firmly to his thighs.

“I know how keen you are for promotion, John,” she told him as she settled herself comfortably onto his face, “But I really feel you need more experience in your present position.”

He tried to reply, but his words were muffled underneath her.

“I don’t think you could cope with the demands of the London office at the moment,” she went on. “Although perhaps if I gave you some more intensive training you might be ready for it in a few weeks.”

She shifted her position, pressing down over his mouth and nose. “Ah,” she murmured as his tongue worked just the way she wanted, “Perfect.”

Now don’t get me wrong, I love the facesitting thing, but the basic idea here is pretty simple; you can see it all in the picture, and I’m not sure what’s being added by the extra text. It’s not badly-written, just a little superfluous, in my view.

I get that the whole thing is a cross-promotion…she’s a story writer trying to get her words to his audience, and vice versa. But I guess really what I’m looking for is properly illustrated, character-driven fiction  where the plot actually goes somewhere, by an artist with a style I admire.  And you’re not going to get that from lengthy text designed to illustrate a single, static image.

I note that Rodzo and Susan have teamed up recently (2007-8?) to do an E-book of short stories named Rodzo’s Torment. Twelve tales about men who have things done to them, illustrated by Rodzo, sounds promising. I think I may break a long-standing thrift habit and buy it to see if it is any better than the single images “one offs” on her site…

PS – I have contacted Rodzo and Susan by e-mail to ask if they had any coment on their work together but no joy so far. I do, however, have an e-mail interview with FD writer Eosuchus coming up in the next post so stay tuned for that…

Steve M.

Frank and Fay: The Importance of Smoothness

Frank comes into the lounge room of their small Leipzig apartment after dinner on Friday night, finding his girlfriend on the couch. She looks disappointed, and so of course, he must ask her why.

“Fay? Honey? Are you alright?”

“Do I look alright?” she says, still looking at the weather on the television.

“Well…yeah, I love the dress, but you look angry about something.”

“Yeah, I am. You let me down.”

“How?I don’t know what I did. I’m sorry, but I don’t know how to fix I if I don’t know what I did.”

She flicks off the TV and look sat him. “You said you were going to shave yourself, completely. But when we went to bed last night there was stubble there. It was a bit rough. I don’t like rough. Fix it.”

“Oh. Well, I shaved on Tuesday. I’m doing it again tomorrow. There’s just a bit of stubble after a few days, that’s all.”

“But you said completely. That means no hair at all. So you have to do it more often. Go to the bathroom.”

“Uhm. OK gorgeous, but…” Frank feels some of his male pride, leftovers from the old days, swell up within him and he decides to question her. “The thing is, you don’t actually…” He cuts of in mid-sentence, knowing where it will lead. It is a battle he cannot win.

“What? I don’t shave. No, because I don’t have to. It doesn’t feel nice for me to do it. It’s rough. And I am smooth, see?”

Frank has to agree that she is pretty smooth. It’s part of the rules.

“Yeah, you are smooth, of course, you are gorgeous. But um, I can’t really see the point in me shaving so often if you…” He questions her again. This is a bold move, but he is genuinely curious.

“You don’t have to see the point. You just have to be smooth down there, OK. I want you tonight.”

Frank rises to attention at this prospect. “Oh, great. Sure, I’ll go shave again. So, you still want to watch Maedchen in Uniform first?

“No, I want to watch Maedchen in Uniform during. And it’s on in fifteen minutes so go get started.

“You…we screw on the couch?”

“No, we’re not screwing. I watch, you eat. It’s over an hour and a half, you might catch the ending. Now hurry up.”

She rolls over to ensure his full compliance, and off he goes to the bathroom, not  questioning why his cock and balls must be shaven smooth in order to perform oral sex while his girlfriend watches a hallmark lesbian film. He’s only ever allowed three questions, anyway. That’s another one of the rules.

(Fay A from Met-Art at Bravo Erotica)

I wrote this For Frank O. If you have a femdom fantasy you would like to explore or pictures for which you would like me to write some text, contact me and I’ll see what I can do. Steve M.

Femdom Wiki Previews

EDITED – this site never got off the ground and there is nothing there right now.

I received a comment advertising this resource a few months back and have now got round to checking it out. Obviously a lot of work has gone into it, and I suspect ‘Richard’ from Female Led Relationships (et. al.) might be behind the project because it looks like a lot of the material from the old FemdomArt.ru site has gone on there, and I know that he was planning on doing this.

There are a lot of femdom art collection sites are around the place, but this looks to me like this could have been one of the better ones…

FFF has Gone Offline…

Just a quick note to say that the Fetish Furniture Factory, supplier of many of my Queening images and ideas, seems to have gone offline. I know Vanessa had so many takers she wasn’t accepting new members, so it’s possible the whole thing has gotten unweildy. Or maybe she has new and bigger plans. But for the time being, there’s nothing at the other end of that link, folks.

I posted this because I’ve had a lot of hits from the hotwives message board coming here specifically to look at the Queening posts. I don’t want you folks to go away empty-handed, but I’m afraid that’s the situation.

And for the record, my wife is hot, but not a hot wife. Go figure.

S.